What's your price?

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When I was in my early twenties, Mike Sapienza (aka Sap) and I were inseparable.

It was Mike, Danny, Steve and I.

There was never a question about if we were hanging out.

The only question was about what the adventure was going to look like.

We would spot each other’s cars from a quarter mile away, flash our lights, pull over and declare the where and when.

One time we decided we would put on suits and sunglasses to bet on the dogs.

We walked Oceans 11 style into the Seabrook dog track, like we owned the place…

Steve’s uncle had a lead on a greyhound named Sack-O-Nuts…

It was a sure thing.

After we each had lost $20 we decided to lose the suits and head to the beach.

Many of our other shenanigans will never see the light of day.

Seriously…

For years we moved as a pack and it was beyond fun.

There was however, one exception to our togetherness.

It came five days a week at 6:30 AM.

That was when Mike went to the gym.

Didn’t matter how late he was out the night before or what was planned for the day, at 6:30AM he was at the Cedardale Athletic Club, working out.

We’d give him a hard time about it and he’d brush it off.

Once when it was just he and I, I asked him how he did it,

In that question I was acknowledging how impressed I was by his commitment.

I have never forgotten his response.

Mike looked me in the eye and said

“Its the price I pay for the life I lead”

He offered nothing more on the subject, nor did he need to.

You have longings…

Some feel more like pipe dreams and others are less grandiose.

Meaningful work...

Physical fitness...

A healthy relationship...

To be part of a community...

To have a real friend...

You know your longings better than I do.

Your desires beg the following question.

Are you willing to pay the price for the life you want?

If your answer is “no”, then good on you for being honest.

If youranswer is yes here are a few thoughts to get you going.

- Stop blaming other people for your lack of action.

You are in your drivers seat.  God gave you a will and a calling.  They are there for you to engage,  so make sure you are not expecting someone else to drive your bus.

- Don’t expect someone else to pay your dues.

Like the first tip, this one is about your life not coming at the expense of others.  Consider the people you love and depend on.  There is no greater drain on a relationship than when the dreamer taxes their             partner and then makes them feel like they are to blame because they were not supportive enough.

- If you are waiting for the right time, it will never come.

The perfect time to start is now and by now I mean right now.  You could choose to stop reading and take meaningful action in the direction of your heart…

Ready?

Curious about life coaching?  If you are ready to schedule your confidentialsample session with Jim Trick or have any questions just call:  978.994.0431 or email thatlifenow@gmail.com

Take a minute...

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The art school a couple of towns over decorates pianos and puts them on the sidewalk for anyone to play.

Today a homeless man who had enjoyed some adult beverages was wildly banging away.

I took his hand and positioned his fingers.

Next I asked him topress those three keys gently.

The look on his face and the shift in his body language was incredible.

With my hand on his shoulder and in a quiet tone I said “Good job! That’s a C chord, that’s where we start”.

He didn’t say a word and as I walked away listened as he played the chord and then the individual notes.

The whole thing might have taken three minutes….

Often we just walk by...

Sometimes we stop for a minute…

Stop for a minute...

Becoming Real

 

 

The Velveteen Rabbit tells this story;

A little boy becomes ill with scarlet fever.

His nanna gives him a stuffed rabbit and it becomes his favorite toy.

As the little boy recovers, his bunny goes everywhere with him.

To him the rabbit is real…

Like any well loved toy, the beloved bunny begins to show signs of wear, but the boy’s love for his bunny never wavers.

Nearing recovery the Doctor recommends the boy go to the seaside and that the contents of his room be burnt to disinfect his living area.

The bunny, worn, charred and discarded cries one real tear…

Heartbreaking right?

The tear produces a flower…

The flower produces a fairy…

The fairy makes the rabbit real…

Why am I telling you the story of the Velveteen Rabbit?

So that you have context for this excerpt and then we can get to work…

Here it is;

He said “You become.

It takes a long time.

That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept.

Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in your joints and very shabby.

But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”

We do “become”…

It does take a long time...

You have been loved…

You have also been charred…

You know what its like to feel discarded...

The love, the pain, the victory and the loss…

The wear and tear…

If you choose to be one who “breaks easily”...

If you choose to be one who has “sharp edges”...

If you refuse to “carefully keep yourself”…

It will take even longer for you to become “Real” .

Real is so beautiful.

Embarrassed?

Insecure?

Fake?

Well…

ok…

all of us are sometimes…

But nothing is as gorgeous as “Real”.

Curious about life coaching? If you are ready to schedule your confidentialsample session with Jim Trick or have any questions just call:  978.994.0431 or email thatlifenow@gmail.com